I find the topic of situationships endlessly fascinating. Why would anyone willingly
sign up for intimacy that leads nowhere? And though I feel like a hypocrite for even
asking\u2014because I\u2019ve indulged in them myself\u2014I still want an answer.
What part of ourselves are we trying to satisfy by limiting our love? Is it childhood wounds, abandonment issues, or some twisted healing ritual after a heartbreak that left us shattered? Is it grief dressed up as casual connection? We get under someone new to get over someone old, hoping proximity will dull the ache.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
My biggest issue with situationships isn\u2019t even the ambiguity\u2014it\u2019s the cruelty. The
lack of communication. The irony of being left by the one who initiated it all. One
day you\u2019re sleeping skin to skin, your head on their chest, listening to their heartbeat as it slows into sleep. And you lie awake wondering if this is the last time. The last time you\u2019ll feel their warmth, the last time their sheets will press against your cold skin.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
It\u2019s cruel to engage in something knowing it won\u2019t last\u2014but people do it every day. I do it. It\u2019s cruel to bare yourself to someone who doesn\u2019t even know your birthday. To love someone who will never love you back. The word itself\u2014situationship\u2014
sounds like a warning. It\u2019s not love. It\u2019s not even real friendship. It\u2019s a situation\u2014
unclassifiable, undefined, and ultimately unsustainable.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
We\u2019ve gone from confessions in the pouring rain and handwritten letters sent off
by pigeons, to \u201cwyd\u201d texts at 2AM. How romantic it is now, to be emotionally unavailable. To hide your feelings so you won\u2019t be labeled \u201ctoo much.\u201d To withhold vulnerability in favor of appearing unbothered. We\u2019ve created a culture where
detachment is desirable and sincerity is cringe.
The truth is, situationships haunt me. They keep me up at night. I hate them so much I\u2019ve started writing about how much I hate them.
And yet, there are moments. Moments when I don\u2019t want them to end. Moments when I curse the sunrise, because I know it means I have to leave\u2014not just the bed, but the fantasy. Because that\u2019s what this is. A beautiful, aching, carefully constructed lie. A situation. Nothing more.
And sometimes the hardest thing is letting go of something that was never really
yours to begin with.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
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